Recipe
to improve our character
: Dr. Manoj Kumar Patel :
While
Pinak driving down the lane with modest speed and keeping to his left a rash
driver suddenly appeared on the road from the wrong side and rammed against Pinak’s
car. The rash driver rather than apologizing started yelling at Pinak. Pinak
came out of his car, apologized to the rash driver who had hit and damaged his
car, and then pacified the situation. His friend, sitting inside the car, asked
Pinak about his apology to the rash biker despite the biker being wrong and
Pinak being right. Pinak told his friend that the world is full of people who
in a hurry are not able to differentiate between right and wrong. From their own
perspectives, each one thinks the other person is wrong and at a mistake. If we do
not get conscious then any interaction even of a small nature will escalate
into a war of words and then maybe a war of physical fight. So, it is wise
that when we come across a big fault in others, just consider it to be trivial.
Then we will not be critical.
But at the same time, we should
find out means to eliminate circumstances where an incident may grow big. Suppose
there is a small fault in you; try to magnify it such that you will never think
of committing a similar fault again. Say, Pinak would consider that he should
have become extra conscious on the road. By looking at it that way, we will
never have occasion to be guilty of the same fault again.
On the other hand, if we
conceal our fault and try to point out the fault of others, it will not be good
either for us or for the others. Pinak and the driver both would have fought to
prove each one as correct. The situation could have gone out of control. Each could
have lost peace of mind.
Do not always lead in pointing
out others' faults. Also, if anyone points out a fault in you, humbly accept
it, because you, by yourself, will not be able to find out where you are in the
wrong. It is difficult to identify your own faults because your vision is
directed outward, you will not be able to find the fault in your own nature!
Excellent article
ReplyDeleteHi.
ReplyDeleteRamalingam here.
Good read.
But easier said than done.
Especially in today's social mieleu where the cut-throat competition first kills and then asks questions.
If I am wrong, I own up and apologize. But if the other fellow is wrong, then he has to be made to acknowledge the fact.
Showing the other cheek may not work, especially when you are dealing with people with no scruples, who will happily slap you on the other.